Anything on screen freaks me out save for football games, musicals and other inspirational contents. Movies are not my thing as I will only visit the cinema when I am with very close friends who insist on visiting one (I do this at best two times yearly). So, do not assume I am a movie blogger who does reviews and analyse movies passionately. Some valuable friends advised me to see Acrimony by the legendary Tyler Perry and I finally obliged few weeks ago.
Even though this movie is not my kind of movie (adrenaline pumping), it got into the innermost chamber of my emotions and messed it up big time. It was a blend of anger, pity, joy and sadness all in the space of two hours. Believe me, you do not need to be smart to garner myriads of life lessons from this well-crafted work of art.
I know those of you who have seen it, learnt a lot from it and they are worth sharing so I would share a few of mine with you and I hope they would be of utmost benefit.
- FOLLOW THE HONOUR CODE :
“Virtue is the fount whence honour springs.” Christopher Marlowe
I am a stickler for honour. I believe anything you do not honour is permitted to leave your life.
Honour is the recognition and appreciation of what a man carries and represents. It has nothing to do with your feelings but has everything to do with the depth of your revelation and discernment about the man in your life. Even when the person does not fit in physically, honour sees what God sees. Honour doesn’t look after the flesh.
In this movie, I believe the first mistake Robert made was getting married to a woman who loves him rather than one who honours him. Personally, I feel most of Melinda’s words were fueled by dishonour should be a great cause for worry for any visionary man. He was also blind to obvious vibes of dishonour streaming down from his in-laws and chose to dive into the murky water of a malnourished marriage oblivious of the wreckage ahead.
On the other hand, he had seen the sponsor of his lifelong dream; he controlled the heart of a woman who seemingly was his password to the strong room, who was housing all the money he needed to bring his “Gayle Wind Force Battery” into fruition and as a smart street nigga, he was never going to let that slip away. How I wish he knew that only thorns survive in the garden of dishonour. I wish I could tell him ‘Brother, a poor woman who honours you is more useful to your purpose than a little brat with nothing but the leftover from her departed parents.’
According to scriptures, the primary need of any purpose driven man is Honour (from his wife) and the basic need of any virtuous woman is Love (from her husband).
Ephesians 5:33 KJV
“Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so LOVE his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she REVERENCE her husband.”
Colossians 3:18-19 KJV
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.  Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”
Hello feminist, there is a way you don’t talk to real men and there are words you don’t release to your man. So, if you cannot honour him, DO NOT MARRY HIM!
I acknowledge the altruism of Melinda; She gave her strength, time, money and everything she knew how to give but I wish she had given what would have cost her nothing; HONOUR
2. FAMILY INFLUENCE IS TOXIC IN MARRIAGE :
Genesis 2:24 KJV
“Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
If you cannot leave your family for your spouse, then you are not qualified to marry someone. Don’t bring your unfinished family business into your newly created garden. If you are not done with your families yet, please stay with them!
Melinda’s siblings did a major disservice to their sister’s home and life in all spheres. They refused to stay out of contact thereby contaminating the fountain of bliss in the tender garden. If there is no leaving, the cleaving process cannot be complete, making peace and productivity impossible.
3. SOCIAL MEDIA PRESSURE :
Social media is a value adding tool and I am a beneficiary of the blessings that come with these technological innovations. Social media has laudably made it possible that anyone can be a certified content creator. However, it is sad that many only dish out toxic meal for the soul of their victims (audience).
One thing I love about social media platforms is the fact that you can choose the content you want to consume. You can also unfriend, unfollow, block, delete and even uninstall.
The destructive monster in Melinda was fed and fuelled by the Facebook timeline of Diana. The more she uploaded those pictures, the more intoxicated and awoken her destructive monster got. I strongly believe the weight of their sufferings would have been lighter only if Diana had uploaded less and if Melinda had simply unfollowed. It would not have been out of place both parties had stayed off social media entirely.
Despite that I follow many inspiring people across all my social media platforms, I still guard my heart anytime I visit the social market. And it’s very easy for me to block, unfollow, mute or unfriend any brand or individual that dares to walk the street of my mind with his or her dirty feet.
4. STAY OFF FURIOUS MINDS :
“To be angry is to revenge the faults of others on ourselves.”–Alexander Pope
I can cope with people with a wide spectrum of persons with diverse behavioural deficiencies. However, I cannot stand a furious soul no matter how beautiful or skilled the person is. I feel folks with temper issues, are demonized and should either be avoided or exorcised. (We treated this exclusively in our previous post and I advise you check it out here The Kind Of People You Should Not Date (Part 2)
Melinda lost her womb, home, joy, peace and ultimately her life because she always chose to be a victim of her broken emotions. She tried to justify her ‘animalistic’ conduct by drawing solace from her husband’s imperfections, little did she know that our response and reactions to issues is not governed by prevailing events but by the state of our minds.
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