How to get your Ex Back

Are you sitting next to a pile of empty beer cans; whining about how you missed out (broke up) on the girl of your dream?  Do you spend all your time banging your head against the glass wall of your self-created regret because you want you ex back, but you don’t know how to go about it? Maybe you seem to be alright, but; you will give an arm to get your ex back into your life if given a chance. Whichever category you are in, I hope this article will guide you on how to get your ex back without losing yourself in the process.

How to get you ex back.

Reuniting with your ex is a worthy project like buying a new car; writing a professional exam; or leaving your country for a saner clime. So, if you think getting your ex back is worth it, then you have to roll your sleeves and give it what it takes. It requires knowledge and action. It’s my job to enlighten you just the same way I wrote about How to breakup with someone. It is your responsibility to take action. Nothing is as unstoppable like an action fueled by relevant information.
Let yourself off the hook and soak in these five simple steps like a sponge.

STEP 1: Conversation

Conversation is King

Any good relationship starts with a conversation. Your previous relationship also started at the click of an interaction. This probably ended with you two becoming an item. Funny enough, some cowards just ghost away though, lol! The purpose of this conversation is to be sure both of you are interested in the rebirth of the relationship. The kind of dialogues can be just as stupidly simple as it is surprisingly hard. Trust me, it will cost you your pride. It can be ego-crushing.


PLEASE NOTE: It’s a dialogue not a pity party. You are not there to go BEG for a second chance.

How to get your Ex back.

Why is this conversation important? You don’t want to be the only one who wants the relationship to be back, do you? Contrary to popular belief, 90% of the time, your ex wants you as bad as you do too but she is as confused, fearful, and proud as you. So, be the bigger person in the picture. Pull the trigger and shoot your shot! Please it’s important that he or she is as interested and committed as you are.
Break-up is heartbreaking, but trying to make a relationship work when the other party is not interested is like a running a marathon with just one leg. It is exhausting! If you don’t stop, you will die! If she is not interested, take your L and move on. Las las you will be alright. If you are willing to make the relationship work after the person shows no interest; then, you don’t need him; you need Self-love and self-awareness. I recommend you read my post on THE CONCEPT OF SELF-LOVE and HOW TO BOOST SELF-LOVE. However, if she is as interested as you, then you move to step number 2.

Step 2 : Make a responsibility list

Responsibility list is a written statement about what you did wrong or could have done better in any transaction. This is impossible if both parties are not fully ready to make things work. Both parties must write down a few things. It’s not a blame game conversation; its a period for personal responsibility, zero excuses or justification. It is just about the right responsibilities.
This is equally a humbling task and it’s only for those who are willing to regain their lost territory. After writing out the list, you can read it out to your partner and promise to be a better version of you in sync with what is written on the list. Once again, this ritual must be mutually executed.

Step 3: Get rid of the past.

How can you go forward looking backward? The past always ruins the beautiful things the future has in stock for us. Stop looking at the past because that is not where you belong. Lugging around guilt, shame, resentment, and self-loathing of the past is self-immolation. Get your ass together and move on as if it never happened. If you can’t forgive yourself or your partner about the past then you don’t need a new relationship. You need a new mind first!


Train yourself not to make reference to the unpleasant incidence of the past. Assume you are dating a new person entirely because you are. Step 1 and 2 should give an adult the ability to make big things happen in this relationship again. You are now a new creature, old things have passed away, behold other things have become new.So, adjust!

How to get your ex back.

Step 4: Write down qualities.

This is one thing I do to keep most of my God-given relationship alive. I suggest you do it as often as you can for those who are important to you. Pay attention to the qualities your partner possesses, and write it down (talk, sing just get it out) and share with them. You must be mad to want to go back to an Ex who doesn’t have any good qualities in the first place. Your why factor exposes his or quality even more to you.
The best of us do not know how valuable we are to humanity because we live in a world that amplifies our imperfections and downside our strengths together with our contributions.

(Proverbs 11:25 KJV):
“The liberal soul shall be made fat: and he that watereth shall be watered also himself.”

Listen up! Do not only list out the qualities, share an example when you see them express such quality to serve others or you. Example given: Don’t just say Daniel is Altruist” you must add the fact that he once gave me every money in his account when he didn’t even have anything left. Many people tell me they love my blog, but I am more blessed by those who tell me how my writing has impacted them positively. You get it now? Yeah!

Step 5 : Set Goals.

Go after the set goals

Relationship without a specific goal is like a stagnant body of water. It will get polluted, and the creatures in it will definitely die. Relationships without direction is ‘Situationship’, and it will end in premium tears eventually.

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Thanks for stopping by. You mean so much to me.

Love and light

23 thoughts on “How to get your Ex Back”

  1. The uniqueness of your post is something worth studying but the simplicity at which you solve complex problems just by writing is stunning.
    Thank you man !

  2. Nice right up. However,as much as getting rid of the past make sense, some times actually taking time to tackle some past events might actually be necessary if anyone wants to move forward with an ex though.

    1. Thanks so much for stopping by .I didn’t say it shouldn’t be dealt with but I did say it shouldn’t be carried over to the new. It should be trashed out

  3. I’ve already saved this post to read over and over again. A relationship can always work out again but you need wise on how to go about it and that’s what TJ has just released to us. Thank you Sir for this wonderful piece

  4. your ex wants you as bad as you do too but she is as confused, fearful, and proud as you. So, be the bigger person in the picture. Pull the trigger and shoot your shot!

    Thanks for sharing deep things out of the pool of God’s wisdom you’ve got paapi

  5. Tunji may have written to those who want their ex back but I believe the same principles work for any kind of broken relationship.

    As usual, Tunji, your delivery is excellent. You’ve conveyed the message in a very simple and easy-to-understand way. Thank you!

  6. Without plenty gramma, this is just so real and achievable. Thank you for giving yourself to write and help others Without practically knowing the extent to with you have saved a soul or enlightened a dark path. Honour is yours!!!

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