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The Kind Of People You Should Not Date (Part 2)

This is sequel to the previous post and I strongly advise you read that first before you continue reading this…It is just a click alone The Kind Of People You Shouldn’t Date (Part 1)

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The biggest difference is in the leadership. It was better for us. We had more coaches and mentors to help us. A lot of the younger players today suffer from a lack of direction.”–Isaiah Thomas
  1. The Mentor-less:

I believe mentorship is not designed for everybody. If you are clueless about your direction in this journey of life, you don’t need a mentor, you need more than a mentor and I truly recommend Jesus for you, he fits perfectly into every situation. The assignment of your mentor is help you arrive at the divine destination safely through wisdom and experience without breaking much sweat. Mentors are not life-givers so get a life before a mentor, else you fall victim.

Mentors are authority figures empowered enough to hold us accountable and responsible for our actions. They instruct, impact and nurture. As a protégé to few, what I enjoy most from my mentors is their ability to trim my excesses especially in my highest point: I call it poisoning me with the truth.

I have met few folks who claim to be protégés of their pastors or some celebrities simply because they have some of these great mind’s materials on their gadgets and libraries. I am in no position to determine your mentors but this is my thought: If he can’t call you to order and correct you when you step out of the code of honour, then he is not your mentor. I insist you need someone who is relatively accessible.

Leadership and mentorship

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A man or woman who is not submissive to any known authority and knows nothing about vulnerability, is a very deadly force, he is nothing short of a time bomb waiting to explode. Sadly, when they get to explode, they do not go down alone so it is wisdom to give them enough space. Safety first!

5.The Lost:

“A child miseducated is a child lost. ” –John F. Kennedy
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Everyone is searching for something – money, power, influence, knowledge just to say a few. Sadly, many go in search of everything else but themselves and I have noticed that the pursuit for other things, is common in folks who have not found themselves. Anyone that hasn’t found himself or herself, is lost. Your answers to these two questions are of utmost importance:

  1. Who am I?
  2. Why am I here?

Is it bad to have lost folks around us? No. However, when you are emotionally involved with such a person, it can be very draining. Lost folks are always looking for something which by design, only God can give. They want you to fill a vacuum you are not big enough to fill. Their insecurities are always mismanaged under pressure. If you notice you cannot help them find themselves, I always advise some space for safety reasons.

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However, if you are currently dating a meek lost soul whom you think you can help in the journey of self-discovery, then I besiege you to rise to the occasion and save the day as a hero that you are.

  1. The Furious:

Anger is the mild version of being furious and I strongly believe anger can be a strength and is one of the basic requirements of quality leadership (please don’t quote me), because in some instances, nothing may get done until those responsible for putting things in place, see that you are angry. Dalai Lama puts it this way: “Generally speaking, if a human being never shows anger, I think something is wrong. Something is wrong in his brain.”

Apostle Paul addressed this better in Ephesians 4:26 KJV

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:”

If you read this aforementioned scripture with an open and unreligious mind, you won’t stone me if I interpret as ‘Get angry (because it’s necessary), however, do not get furious (because it’s demonic).

Fury kicks in when you take in overdose of your anger diet; when your anger cup is filled to the brim and won’t stop running over.

Where you become so infuriated, inexorable and have totally lost the ability to control or manage your emotion, you become a slave to it. You are no longer in control of yourself when you speak words and show emotions you will surely regret later, and in this state, you tend to act below your real self. It is a demeaning act of self-immolation.

You need to keep off from anyone who hits this threshold way too fast—Folks who dive straightaway into the pool of fury without staying long in the anger zone.

Proverbs 21:9,19 KJV

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman(or man) in a wide house. It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman(or man).”

According to the verses above, furious folks are not designed for marriage and getting married to them comes with its own consequences. Obey the word…Stay off!

  1. The Furious:
“Fury itself supplies arms.”– Virgil
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Anger is the mild version of being furious and I strongly believe anger can be a strength and is one of the basic requirements of quality leadership (please don’t quote me), because in some instances, nothing may get done until those responsible for putting things in place, see that you are angry. Dalai Lama puts it this way: “Generally speaking, if a human being never shows anger, I think something is wrong. Something is wrong in his brain.”

Apostle Paul addressed this better in Ephesians 4:26 KJV

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:”

If you read this aforementioned scripture with an open and unreligious mind, you won’t stone me if I interpret as ‘Get angry (because it’s necessary), however, do not get furious (because it’s demonic).

Fury kicks in when you take in overdose of your anger diet; when your anger cup is filled to the brim and won’t stop running over.

Where you become so infuriated, inexorable and have totally lost the ability to control or manage your emotion, you become a slave to it. You are no longer in control of yourself when you speak words and show emotions you will surely regret later, and in this state, you tend to act below your real self. It is a demeaning act of self-immolation.

You need to keep off from anyone who hits this threshold way too fast—Folks who dive straightaway into the pool of fury without staying long in the anger zone.

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Proverbs 21:9,19 KJV

It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman(or man) in a wide house. It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman(or man).”

According to the verses above, furious folks are not designed for marriage and getting married to them comes with its own consequences. Obey the word…Stay off!

  1. NON-TRIBE
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This is the most important and the first quality I look out for in anybody before I take further steps. My tribe in this context are the beloved—folks who believe in the death and the resurrection of JESUS CHRIST. No walk with the Holy Spirit, no future with me. Call me a fanatic or extremist and you will be right!

Do I hate other religions? NO! I respect everybody’s convictions and believe. In fact, I have great relationship with folks from other religions— mostly Buddhist and Muslims. My mum and only brother are devoted Muslims yet I am deeply in love with them and we roll as we should without any friction.

However when it comes matters of life and death like marriage, if we are not related by blood (the sinless blood of the Lamb) I am out. It is impossible for an eagle to marry a dolphin even if they are drunk in love because reality will hit sooner or later. Take a moment to answer this question: where will they call home in the long run? Sea or air.

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