At The Very Best…Men Are Mere Gifts. 

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.”James 1:17

  Few months ago, I had a meeting with a man in his  executive  suite at Eko Hotel and suite Victoria Island in Lagos . We had exchanged  several mails prior to that  day of the brief powwow.  However,we met each other (physically)  for the very first time that very day. Conversation went boring when he unveiled his full ministry. Immediately, I made my stand known  to him and he perceived I wasn’t going to shift  ground. He got upset and cheekily said  “I have all it takes to change your life without breaking a sweat , I know what and to do to place your talent on a global platform. He paused and continued ” no reasonable young man will turn down  this kind of offer.” I got furious yet tried to wear a calm look but my wry smile was piercing enough.  He then insisted I utter what I was thinking in my heart (probably, he expected an apology).  I obliged as immediately  brought my nibbling to a halt,  a tinge of nebulous fear pierce through the fog that had clouded my mind still  I dared to voice out my feelings without repentance.  I replied “sir I am not trying to be reasonable here, I simply can’t work with you on this  level because my faith won’t permit me. Howebeit, you can’t change my life even if you break all the sweats in this world.  Only God can do that  and I won’t need to compromise my standard when the time comes. You are just a  man,  still struggling  to put yourself on a global platform!” Silence engulfed the suite like a graveyard, confusion wrinkled his face, his Personal Assistant looked with his mouth agape. He was an atheist so he didn’t deserve my 100% courtesy (lol) . 

  The meeting ended faster than planned but after 72hrs he called and apologized for his unruly choice of words  and saluted  my gut. 

 I wasn’t like that few years ago. Back then, I overrated people in my life (even outside my life); I treated some folks as my all in all. Even though I didn’t literally  address them as ‘my lord’, my actions screamed that at the highest pitch. These sacks of flaws were placed in the uppermost part of my heart. They rode horses on my rights and walks through my lofty mind with their dirty legs. I cared about their opinions about me, I craved  badly for their approval per time. I virtually  did everything within my power to please these inflated masses of breathing dust called MEN, yet they didn’t cease from being human… Never satisfied!

 It was  a very frustrating phase  of my life. It took me so much time and energy before  the psyche of slavery got broken. I do hope someone’s eyes of understanding will be opened after reading this piece. 

As believers, its fundamental to know how much God loves us. For he created all things for his pleasure. And in his eternal love, He had given us all things that pertain to life and godliness including the wonderful people HE strategically placed in our lives. He positioned them in our lives to play different roles even before the foundation of the earth. Men are like pencil in the hand of the creator (Wale Adenuga Production phrase). The creator gives the pencil a sense of purpose but if the pencil is broken or  unfit, the creator drops it in the trash can and picks another one. 

  I totally believe, nobody is self-made; we are all products of influence(s). No dream turns  reality without the input of other men. No vision is safely birthed without the help of men. Men mean human being in your life, Parents, siblings, fiancé, mentors, teachers, business partners and so on.  Men in our lives are great blessing from God to us and it’s Godly and healthy  to respect and appreciate these wonderful gifts  in our lives. However, its unhealthy to worship and idolize them – our Loyalty should be to God and God alone. 


This is the conclusion of the whole matter: it’s the grace of God upon our life that commands and attracts favour from men. Sometimes, you wonder why your uncle or someone pretty close refused to help you on a matter you are sure is within their  power. Some other times you see a certified tightfisted fellow blessing you with so much.  If you think your earthly  dad provides for your needs because he rich , I think you need to answer this question:who made him Prosper or better still, what did you give or do to get such a wonderful father? .  Your dad might have money yet  not give you a dime even if you ask (that sounds weird right… Yeah?). The spirit controls the physical. It’s very unwise to shift our Loyalty to men instead of God who is working behind the scenes.”The king’s heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will.”  Proverbs 21:1. We must be conscious of this fact :There is a KING that other kings bow to either willingly  or by duress.


 Personally, I cherish the great relationships God has blessed me with; I have the best of friends and families. I enjoy altruism a lot and I enjoy daily love and respect from all these great people in my life. I daily thank God for that and appreciate every single relationship in my life. However, I don’t hold any so desperately that I would allow it come in between my purpose in life or my relationship with God. I can boldly  walk out of any friendship when necessary, I can break away from anyone (I mean anyone!) or relationship when necessary. I don’t hold anything or anyone too special, when it comes to some stuff …only God counts. Although,  I had lost so much simply because I refused to bow or bend but I must tell you, I got those things I thought I had lost back in many folds. 

 Friendship and Relationship become real when each party  is secure in the Love of God and no one is afraid of losing the friendship. I ‘poison’ my friends with the truth when necessary and they stab me right in my front when needed too . We are real to one another and that helps us grow individually even as a team. You don’t have to be afraid about what people will do to you when you are sure God is with you on that boat. If you loss a person in your life because you tell them the truth, then they were never meant to be part of your life. God will bless you with better folks, trust me he will!  These scriptures encourage me a lot:

“Hearken unto me, ye that know righteousness, the people in whose heart is my law; fear ye not the reproach of men, neither be ye afraid of their reviling.”Isaiah 51:7

“Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.” Isaiah 41:10 

 This is my point : GOD is our everything! HE is our salvation, healing, protection, provision to mention a few. He is our very help in time of need. Your Dad is not the family’s bread winner, God is. Your husband isn’t your protector (can he protect himself?), God is. Your Job isn’t your provider, God is. You boss isn’t the real boss, God is. You are not the father of your children, God is (you are just a mere caretaker). Nobody is the real landlord, God is. No man has got the right to play ‘God’ in your life. It’s wise to be careful how we place ourselves in people’s lives too. At best we are stewards; we don’t need to start parading ourselves with high-sounding appellations. 

  Finally my beloved, I encourage you to celebrate the God-given gifts in your life, appreciate them, bless them with the best of your ability.BUT  let you allegiance and fealty be unto God and God alone. 

Thanks for Reading. 

Olatunji Rockdweller 

Please,  kindly share  if you think it’s worth sharing and I really long to see your comments. 

19 thoughts on “At The Very Best…Men Are Mere Gifts. ”

  1. Waooooooooooooo…..this is Rich….I rushed this piece like a hungry lion…every line and verse held my interest. Good one Olatunji….God Bless the work of your hands.

  2. Since I made peace with my purpose, it’s become easier for me to turn down offers that’ll veer me off course.

    Some people just love playing god in people’s lives, but thank God they don’t supply the air we breathe.

    Tunji, this piece is beautiful.

  3. Wow
    He never fails to amaze me with his articles
    I so get where you’re coming from,Tunji
    We look at some individuals in our society today and we have such massive reverence for them.
    One time in church, praise and worship was on but dragging somehow and the chorister in charge was like “If Daddy Adeoye walked in right now, and joined us, how would you worship be like?”, and I noticed a lot of people changed their mood as soon as that was mentioned.
    It’s crazy, but it’s all around now. We forget we’re all sand and dust. Everyone of us. Surviving solely because the creator wants us to and because, Grace.
    I hope more people see the light .
    Thank you for sharing this,I’d be tweeting it 🙂

  4. We all have to know this before we get drown in the lost of this world. Thank you dear for sharing this piece. We need to learn to find fulfillment in the word of God not relying on human who are just one of the piece of the hand work of the MostHigh Himself.

  5. We all have to know this before we get drown in the lost of this world. Thank you dear for sharing this piece. We need to learn to find fulfillment in the word of God not relying on human who are just one of the piece of the hand work of the MostHigh Himself.

  6. “I do hope someone’s eyes
    of understanding will be opened after reading this

    It was, God bless you sir, I was blessed and learnt a lot too.

  7. Your insight into things is beyond you. From the very first day I met you.. You have been a source of inspiration to me. Even my parents read your works.
    God bless you richly!
    Nairobi love you!

    1. Thanks so much Mr Musyoka. You are a wonderful soul with a rich spirit. You are indeed a great gift to my life too. It’s so nice to know your parents dig in here too. What a honour!
      I promise to drop you assignment soon.
      I love Nairobi so much too!

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