Fear is a universal ailment. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines being fearless as being free from fear. This definition aligns with Nelson Mandela’s philosophy… Fearless doesn’t mean the absence of a feeling of terror or anxiety but the power over it. To be Fearless means to decide that the claws of fear will not hold you back from doing what you need to do. Like a friend said, “ Danger is real but fear is a choice.”
I know what it means to wrestle with fear (firsthand), a Rottweiler attacked me as a 7-year-old kid (another one happened at 16). They both left a scar on my body but the scars they left in my mind are even more palpable. To this day, I carry myself carefully around dogs (a smart way to say I still struggle with Cynophobia: fear of dogs).
Like most humans, I still wrestle monsters of fear in my life and in the marketplace, the best part of my journey in life is the rewards of doing what should be done despite the strong storm of terror. Sometimes, things you do when your heart slams against your rib and when out of your palms flows a river of depressing sweats are our gateway to our destiny. You can’t be anything worthy without courage.
Courage is the basic requirement of royalty and leadership. Lion is the King of the Jungle simply because of its boldness. The lion fears yet it doesn’t turn back from anything. I believe lions live with the mantra ‘Feel the fear but get it done anyway!” Lion is not courageous because it is the King of the jungle, it got to the throne in the first place because it was courageous.
A lion which is strongest among beasts, and turneth not away for any;Proverbs 30:30
Fear is a psychological dilemma that every human has to resolve to embrace a life of purpose and meaning. Virtues, knowledge(or skills) without courage is sterile. Fear makes us do stupid things. In fact, the most obvious sign of wisdom is courage and calmness. The people we consider heroes were people who felt the same fear every other person felt (sometimes more ) yet did what was supposed to be done regardless.
Like foreign language and skillsets, fear is taught. As a little kid, I played with dogs. I used to see dogs as buddies until my experience. Our greatest fear can spring from the roots of our upbringing and environment. Children are fearless beings and they will remain fearless until their environments begin to paint fearful pictures in the canvas of their lofty souls. I believe that is why Jesus wanted them around more. You will not enter into the paradise of your destiny until you become as fearless as a child. If we learn fear then we can also unlearn our fearful tendencies and relearn courage.
To fear is human but to be ruled by fear is demonic.Olatunji Rockdweller
Learning courage is wrapped in your daily routine. I know that might sound vague so I will highlight some things I believe will help you uninstall your fearful operating system running in the depth of your soul :
1. Be Spiritual
Have you ever wondered why most of the things your therapist and YouTube motivational channels told you did not work as expected? Trust me, there are roles I believe only the spirit can handle. Paul wrote about the spirit of fear to Timothy who was at that moment struggling with an inferiority complex. Timothy was a young leader in a church of older and richer folks. I suspect they were already bullying him ( Paul also wrote that ” Dont let anyone mess with you. Carry yourself well, be a ‘badass’ but be Holy (my version).
Don’t let anyone think less of you because you are young. Be an example to all believers in what you say, in the way you live, in your love, your faith, and your purity.1 Timothy 4:12 NLT
In the letter, Paul made his protege understand that there is a spirit of fear and it is demonic.
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.2 Timothy 1:7 NLT
Fear steals your power, kills your love, and destroys your self-discipline. That is why you do stupid things around fear.
Did I just rubbish the role of therapist and psychologist on this matter? No! I believe their work can only be effective when the spirit of fear has been taken care of.
In addition, identity is the first weapon when battling a strong enemy like fear and nothing gives a man a superior identity like being truly spiritual. I am yet to meet a fearful yet deeply spiritual person. You know why? They don’t exist!
You are fearful in the first place because of the content you have been exposed to from childhood; what you heard, saw, felt, and experienced. To rewire your mind, your mind you have to expose your mind to the opposite and in a ‘crazy’ quantity.
Anytime a dog comes around my space of existence, I no longer do stupid things like jumping on the next care or screaming help on top of my lungs( it still depends on the breed and size of the dog though) but a dog in my field of awareness always comes with a rush of discomfort which is not worth it. So I avoid homes with dogs. Even Apostle Paul warned me about them.
Watch out for those dogs, those people who do evil.
Beware of dogs, beware of evil workers, beware of the concision.Philippians 3:2 (KJV and NLT )
If you desire a fearless life, then stop spending time with people whose atmospheres do not empower your confidence. Avoid toxic relationships with your whole life.Avoid going to places or listening to content that exposes you to conflicting forces and beliefs.
If you are from a poor family, you are most likely from a very fearful background (I hope to address this in the future). Spend time with more confident people and spend a lot of time alone (I wish I can explain the power of solitude and power of confessions in this piece but it will be too long).
- Read good books (a lot of books)
- Fitness (register in a gym)
- Invest in your spiritual life
- Have a daily confession
- Invest in invaluable relationships.
Fear can only be stymied by a healthy daily routine and lifestyle.