Saying ‘YES’ To Being Alone


Written by Olatunji Rockdweller

“To be alone is a great asset” – Daniel Akhidenor
“ There are some places in life where you can only go alone. Embrace the beauty of your solo journey.”  – Mandy Hale 


   Before I scribe further, It’s expedient to swiftly tackle the misconception that can blot out the essence of this piece. It’s about broadening the Gulf between loneliness and aloneness. Loneliness means to be sad and frustrated from being apart from other people and the latter simply
means isolation from folks that are usually with you. The latter can lead to the former for those who have the tendency. To be lonely is ungodly; it means to be devoid of the knowledge of God’s love for you. A man who suffers chronic loneliness is a dangerous man, he always have depression hanging around and suicide is an option to his fragile
mind; he feels far from God and he doesn’t have a clue about his purpose in life, so whenever he feels love by anyone he can do anything to retain the feeling . The only solution is encountering the love of God. Aloneness happens when you decide to walk out of people’s lives or vice versa. It’s could be voluntary or involuntary and this is where relationship breakups fit it. I hope I have cleared the coast about the misconception… Yeah? Now! My rant for today!
   I am sanguine God designed us to be loved and cherished; we’re fashioned to be celebrated, so it’s natural to crave for attention and emotional support. It’s not out of track to feel good around those who love and cherish you. However, solitary life is unavoidable in our journey to success. You just have to be alone at a particular point in time. Sadly, many youths in this generation would do anything to avoid seclusion; they just wanna be accepted and loved 24/7 by everybody. That is crazy! I am extremely gregarious by nature; almost suffocated
by legion of acquaintance sometimes, yet my favorite abode is on the island of privacy. In fact, my most cherished abilities and bestowal were discovered and refined during those golden moment of Isolation, when I drew into my shell and shoulder my cross ALONE! Isn’t the
easiest thing to do but always worth it friends.
Beloved, it’s insane to entreat people, pay friends, write poems or
‘get banged’ just to keep your life crowded – it’s not worth it *jare*. When some folks have exhausted their time in your life, please let them go! Extra-time in relationship can be self-immolating. This
is a secret I have learnt by experience; you need different team of
people at different phases of your life and only few priceless folks are tailored to be functional in your life for a long time and sometimes eternally. Interestingly, those priceless people don’t need to be worshipped before keep their places in our lives.
Your life is a facility with limited capacity; capacity to accommodate people and things and it’s unwise (facility management /HSE) that you don’t overcrowd your facility. Keeping outdated ‘friends’ it’s always at the expense of the valuable ones-don’t let them suffer suffocation!
Great minds know how to handle rejection and cuddle disapproval, real
Men know exactly when to take a bow in every phase of their lives;they don’t go around begging for acceptance from fellow men. Many guys wouldn’t let go of ‘draining’ relationships, many girls are
enduring abusive relationship simply because they are craving for
acceptance. How I wish they know how much they have been accepted by
God and loved by Christ!”Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ
to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will, the praise of
the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us *accepted in the
beloved.” *Says Paul (Eph 1:5-6). This scripture literally transformed my
life and gave me eternal Christ Esteem (superior to self Esteem). I just do my things and your opinion about my decision and personality doesn’t count, if you don’t love me and accept me naturally, then you are not in class of the VIPs (Beloved). People who are close enough understand that is my incurable mindset.
Dearie, If you have been overcrowding your life, please grow up and be a blessing to yourself first and then others, add value to yourself and stop expecting love and attention from mere mortals like you.”Cease ye from man, whose breath is in his nostrils: for wherein is he to be accounted of?” Isaiah 2:22.
  Solitude is where one discovers one is not alone,it’s the oven where great minds are baked. When men are walking
out of my life, I don’t fret, I just rest in his love, expecting God to step into the situation- It’s a super-doped experience! Sometimes you just need to be alone to reflect on your life. Take time to take care of yourself. You deserve it! That is the moment you make way for the invisible to prevail. 
  Permit me to instruct you briefly;Don’t rush into relationship or marriage as a therapy for your loneliness.Marriage/relationship is fastest lane to unveil the depth of your loneliness and deepens it (I know that is against the popular belief
but its truth). Educate yourself in this area to have a paradigm shift. Secondly, ‘flush out’ the idea of rushing into another relationship whenever you feel jilted. That mindset is for folks who lack
self-worth; believers aren’t destined to be bags of inferiority complexes. You are a  valuable(premium) asset, your are worth exactly what Christ  is worth! 
    Relationship is honourable. However it’s better to be single (alone) instead of enduring a purposeless relationship and abusive relationship. Relationship with God and self is Priceless!

Muchas Gracias Amigos
Olatunji Rockdweller.

13 thoughts on “Saying ‘YES’ To Being Alone”

  1. For some time now, I have been craving for this experience, even though work et al have not really allowed it run. People say I am a sanguine( I no even know maybe I agree), but I talk a lot and play wella, so there are always people around. scratch that. I love to always be around fun people.

    But I feel,sometimes its important to just have that me time. I want it and i know I will get it soon.

  2. I do not even know how I ended up here, but I thought this post was great. I don’t know who you are but definitely you’re going to a famous blogger if you aren’t already 😉 Cheers!

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