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A friend had her birthday bash at Oniru private beach few days ago and I had to be unavoidably present. Trust me, it’s not a bad place to be. Being a red-hot beach lover, I have visited different beaches within and outside the State. However, my experience in Oniru was different.
I doff my hat for the management of Oniru beach for such innovation and creativity… They did an amazing job! Even a blind man will agree that millions of naira was invested in that environment; they constructed enough wave breakers which hinder the violent waves of the ocean. These barricades mitigate the ocean current and mollify the rage of this energetic water body thereby making the blue safer (I mean safest) even for naive swimmers and children to swim and have fun without panic. The first 300 meters from the shore is between 0-10 feet deep. It’s was the safest beach I ever visited, nonetheless, the safety turned me off. Please don’t get me wrong, I’m a lover of safety, in fact, I am a certified HSE (Health, safety and Environment) officer to great extent…However, I just love it real and natural.
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As an environmental biologist by training, I know that seas around this part of the world belong to Atlantic family. Atlantic Ocean and its seas are known to be wild and violent because of its location on the globe and probably gravitational force, so, it’s normal for it to be constantly unsettled and restless. whenever I see a calm one I tend to ask questions.
Many people saw a safe haven; a place where they can express themselves without fear of drowning but I saw a full potential wasting and crying for expression. I heard the deafening shout of restricted talents and potentials yelling for freedom to do what they are equipped and called to do. Why would anyone stop the sea from raging? Why would anybody spend thousands of dollars just to restrict a happy and energetic ocean? These questions slammed the doors of my thoughts. In my opinion, it’s unfair to cage the ocean just to make some naive folks feel safe and comfortable. I believe if you need safety you can tread carefully with the waves or go swim in a shallow pool somewhere, better still, stay in your bathtub or Jacuzzi in the comfort of your home. Why should I drive kilometers, pay gate fee just to sits on fine sand by the lake side? Is Oniru not supposed to be one of the daughters of the almighty Atlantic Ocean like Eleko beach, Ibinum beach and others? It was clear to me that the ocean was as unhappy as the Rockdweller. In fact, I left the place burdensome. Trust me that would certainly be my last visit to Oniru.
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In reality, we meet determined folks who are ready to barricade the roaring factors in us, they are willing to construct wave breakers in our lives for free ; they are ready to invest time and resources to squelch our selling points just to make them or other people comfortable around us. Most times, our families and loved ones are the major culprits in this area. Some feel those traits and tendencies are not healthy for us and our environment, other expect us to change so that they can manage to like us (some folks love the extrovert they just want to force us to be social and other love the introverts they feel we can be more useful if we can keep our lips on each other for a second) little do they know, we are wired differently.
I am a super-sanguine, always full of life and very quick to speak my mind on any issues which was very offensive to many, even my family. I never knew they were God-given qualities until few years ago , I thought my traits were curses from hell. My mom felt I was talking too much, my teachers believed I was never serious, my uncle felt I was too playful, neighbors felt I was too confrontational and rude. Only my brother could handle me for a while, so I had to learn how to spend time with myself even as a boy (I still love it though). I stumbled on few of my report cards last year and the comments were epic: ‘brilliant but rollicking’, ‘intelligent but careless’, ‘HE TALKS TOO MUCH, HE IS TOO PLAYFUL’ etc. Every teacher saw me through the same lens. Pastor E talked to me about it, she showed me James 3 (she made things worse). They tried to exorcise the demons in me, mama and uncles flogged the hell out of me thank God I wasn’t healed of those traits. Now I inspire many people all over the world (directly and indirectly), I add colour to lives and relationships around me with those same traits. I don’t think I would be useful even to myself if they had successfully constructed their wave breakers(barricades) and turn this ranting man to the cool and calm guy my teachers, Pastor E and parents would have been proud to call a ward and son. Thank God they couldn’t tame the waves!
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Moreover, I have friends who are extremely calm but they are never boring, I have friends who are passionate about what turn me off yet they are huge blessing to my life even with those same traits I do not admire. Nobody is boring in his natural habitat, every natural flavor is amazing! Take off barricades that people have successfully place in your life and fight to be you. Be original!
Sadly, many of us have bowed our knees to pressure and we have lost our inner waves–our selling points. Do not permit jealousy, envy and people’s opinion to rub you of yourself. Don’t tame your waves and magic. Don’t mute your inner voice just to make anyone feel safe around you. You don’t have to lower your standard just to make anyone feel safe around you, if your wave is too violent for their shoulders to swim, they are not meant to hang around you… Keep roaring they will leave or get drown.
Finally, keep an opened mind to growth, embrace positive influences and impacts, listen to your mentors but none of these can replace your selling point!
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