Written by Olatunji Rockdweller
In my few years within the tall walls of Christianity, I have met plethora patients of this endemic disease (Bless God for immunity). Sadly, they occupy sensitive positions in our churches and fellowships which further amplifies their asthenia (most times, leadership has a way of squeezing out our depravity). ‘God said’ syndrome patients have the ability to infest sisters with what I call ‘brethrenophobia’ – the fear of Christian brothers.
I am fully aware, some ministries don’t permit a man wooing a damsel without going through the marriage committee (It’s their doctrine and it’s perfectly fine by me). So, this piece is tailored for brethren who belong to churches where direct transaction is lawful and ‘legit’.
I feel uncomfortable whenever I hear a brother uses the ‘God said’ tactics to deliver his manifesto. Some are even more audacious, they use the ‘God said’ to start and end such a sensitive journey (the alpha and omega dimension) . However, this piece isn’t a fashioned tantrum targeted at any particular person. I just feel like airing my view about this syndrome and I do hope it’s still within the code of honour… Yeah?
I know, the name of the Lord is a strong tower, the righteous (not coward) run into it and he is saved. I also know the righteous is as bold as lion. Don’t get me wrong here, God does speak to people. In fact, HE speaks always and leads His beloved per time. This is my point, even if angel Gabriel appears to you and screams her name, loud and clear; that is supposed to be a piece of confidential information which should remain between you and thy God, not a parachute for soft and safe landing. It’s superannuated!
Sir, imagine an organization of your dream invites you for an interview . Prior to the interview, God had told you “Son, the job is yours! In fact you were the reason I kept it for this long”; would you go straight to Human Resource manager (even if he is your pastor) and say “Sir, God said the job is mine, you can go ahead, pray about it and get back to me?” I guess you would sit for the interview and expect the result to confirm what God had told you earlier. In fact, I am sure you would respect yourself and avoid blowing up the opportunity of a life time. The same principle should operate in the ‘sisters’ ministry’. If you won’t do that for a mere job, don’t try it with the potential mother of your children either.
Brethren, If you are sure God is leading you to a particular ‘Shunnamite’, then go as a righteous(bold) man, with liberty like a man whom Christ died for, declare your intended intention, do everything to impress her like every other brother, conjure poems if necessary, buy gifts if needed, call her for 48hrs in just a day. Just do anything to enforce the kingdom of heaven on earth. Forget not, the violent taketh it by force!
Considering the emotional vulnerability of most sisters in the fold, ‘God said’ tactics is very boring and unhealthy path to tread. It’s purely spiritual manipulation (witchcraft) – spiritual manipulation is punishable by fire in some ministries. Some ‘bad’ brothers even go as far as telling the poor sister “go ahead and pray about it and get back to me.” In most scenarios a funny dreams or awkward vision follows such manifesto especially if that looks like one of the sister’s prayer point for the year.
Finally my brother, you don’t need so much gut to get her into your R-zone. Ladies are not as tough as they do appear. So, instead of using the ‘God Said’ tactics, just tell her your vision and purpose, tell her the qualities she possesss that make you feel she is the qualified candidate for the position (Helper)in your life, then go romantic and exhaust all the weapons in your arsenal. **winks ***
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