The Kind Of People You Shouldn’t Date (Part 1)

My Kenyan Friend, James Odinga requested for a post about how to choose the right spouse. Honestly, I do not feel qualified to teach anyone about choosing the right person being that I am yet to choose for myself– even as I trust God to get it right.

However, I can show you the kind of people you ought not to consider for a relationship. Trust me, you will always have these categories of persons around you but you should deliberately make sure they are not mentioned amongst your closest friends (I also think folks should marry persons from their inner circle).

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Here are the kinds of People you should not give room for in your inner circle:

1. The Ingrates:

My vignette of these “deadly” folks would probably not fit into popular opinions; however, I have chosen to air my view without any fear of misinterpretation. The phrase “Thank you” doesn’t weigh much in my ears anymore because I have come to understand that there is a huge difference between profession, intention and action. I believe that even the devil will scream loudly that cliché when you meet his needs or solve his problems at least temporarily. As such, saying “thank you” and “actually being grateful”, are relative depending on the intent of the person saying so.

You are an ingrate if you are blind to the thin line between your rights and privileges. Anyone can appreciate the tangibles but it takes a great mind to appreciate the untouchables and intangibles.

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2. The Proud:

In this context, I do not necessarily mean the bragant and cocky but the addicted people pleasers. A proud person is the man or woman who thinks and cares more about what others think of him than what God thinks or says of him. They are always about reputation and how to look good before people. Friendship with them can be very draining because they always have this poisonous sense of entitlement.

Young man, if she can’t handle constructive criticism, then flee like a one being chased by a lion because in the grand scheme of things, you are.

Young lady, if he thinks he knows it all and would hardly ask for any help even when it’s obvious he needs one, fight your way out like a drowning swimmer.

Everyone that doesn’t have the knack of saying (taking) ‘NO’, is proud (kindly check out the post titled ‘The Knack of saying No” here).The Knack Of Saying ‘NO’

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2. The wolves:

    The wolves are folks who attack your authenticity. They cannot stand you being different from the crowd. They define you by the general terms and status.

    Acts 20:29-30 KJV

    “For I know this, that after my departing shall grievous wolves enter in among you, not sparing the flock.

    [30] Also of your own selves shall men arise, speaking perverse things, to draw away disciples after them.”

    Everyone in my innermost circle is abnormal: they are weird and unbelievably strange. That is what makes them the treasure God had made them to be and I have benefited a lot from these roaring sheep.

    Anyone that attacks your authenticity is attacking the real core of your existence and such person doesn’t deserve to be around you. Sometimes, these wolves operate in a very subtle manner; they advise and talk you into being normal just like anyone around.

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    Personally, if I can’t find any trace of weirdness in your life, you cannot be my friend because I find it difficult to believe you have found your magic. Everything God creates is not just beautiful but also unique. He did not create two things or persons to be exactly alike. He is a creative God who doesn’t run out of ideas. We all have unique personalities, and it’s demonic to impose our personalities or societal expectations on others before they can be accepted into our folds.

    Paul put it this way “For you are accepted in the beloved” so anyone who rejects your uniqueness is a wolf (not the beloved).

    …To be Continued.

    If you enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed birthing it ,then kindly drop your comment and share with everyone within your sphere of influence.

    37 thoughts on “The Kind Of People You Shouldn’t Date (Part 1)”

    1. Wowza. Relationship talks sweet die.
      A very good one Sir. The points raised here covers all others. You have a lot of work on your hands with this one. In a time where innocent ,well meaning people have been bruised and damaged as a result of past relationships, this is very timely .
      Thank you so much and God bless you.
      Continue very soon.

    2. Uncle Barmz, it’s awesome reading another of your piece again after a long time and as usual, I’m not disappointed. I’m grateful to you for all you do.
      I’m expecting the next part.

    3. Awesome piece. Aside looking out for people like this, we should also find and delete such characters if found in us…

      Yesssss… No wierdness, no originality.

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    5. This first time Tunji spoke my dad . Daddy was like ‘who is this wise old man in a young body?’ I told him my new friend and he adding ‘This is the kind of people I love to see around my sons. Hold him tight!”

      I won’t stop loving and honouring you Bro.
      This piece left me awe.

      1. Deji… Thanks so much for stopping by.
        God bless you richly! I love you deeply and always will I love your wonderful family.

    6. The Rockdweller wrote two blog posts from just a frozen bottled water,he wrote another life changing piece from Oniru beach he visited last year, we wrote a piece from earplugs in the library…He can pick lessons from everything !

      For me , I feel you haven’t exhausted you lessons from this movie. This is way too easy for you .
      God bless you richly The Rockdweller … I am blessed to have access to your blog.

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      In December of 2017, Donald Trump made history by recognizing Jerusalem as the capital of Israel. Why is this big news? Because by this the Jewish people of Israel are now able to press forward in bringing about the Third Temple prophesied in the Bible.

      Jewish Rabbis have publicly announced that their Messiah will be revealed in the coming years who will be a leader and spiritual guide to all nations, gathering all religions under the worship of one God.

      Biblical prophecy tells us that this Jewish Messiah who will take the stage will be the antichrist “who opposes and exalts himself above all that is called God or that is worshiped, so that he sits as God in the temple of God, showing himself that he is God” (2 Thessalonians 2:4). For a time he will bring about a false peace, but “Therefore when you see the ‘abomination of desolation,’ spoken of by Daniel the prophet, standing in the holy place (Matthew 24:15)…then there will be great tribulation, such as has not been since the beginning of the world until this time, no, nor ever shall be” (Matthew 24:21).

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      “He causes all, both small and great, rich and poor, free and slave, to receive a mark on their right hand or on their foreheads, and that no one may buy or sell except one who has the mark or the name of the beast, or the number of his name.

      Here is wisdom. Let him who has understanding calculate the number of the beast, for it is the number of a man: His number is 666.”

      Referring to the last days, this could only be speaking of a cashless society, which we have yet to see, but are heading towards. Otherwise, we could still buy or sell without the mark amongst others if physical money was still currency. This Mark couldn’t be spiritual because the word references two different physical locations. If it was spiritual it would just say in the forehead. RFID microchip implant technology will be the future of a one world cashless society containing digital currency. It will be implanted in the right-hand or the forehead, and we cannot buy or sell without it. Revelation 13:11-18 tells us that a false prophet will arise on the world scene doing miracles before men, deceiving them to receive this Mark. Do not be deceived! We must grow strong in Jesus. AT ALL COSTS, DO NOT TAKE IT!

      “Then a third angel followed them, saying with a loud voice, “If anyone worships the beast and his image, and receives his mark on his forehead or on his hand, he himself shall also drink of the wine of the wrath of God, which is poured out full strength into the cup of His indignation. He shall be tormented with fire and brimstone in the presence of the holy angels and in the presence of the Lamb. And the smoke of their torment ascends forever and ever; and they have no rest day or night, who worship the beast and his image, and whoever receives the mark of his name” (Revelation 14:9-11).

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      We all know God exists. Why? Because without Him, we couldn’t prove anything at all. Do we live our lives as if we cannot know anything? No. So why is God necessary? In order to know anything for certain, you would have to know everything, or have revelation from somebody who does. Who is capable of knowing everything? God. So to know anything, you would have to be God, or know God.

      A worldview without God cannot account for the uniformity and intelligibility of nature. And why is it that we can even reason that God is the best explanation for this if there is no God? We are given reason to know or reject God, but never to know that He does not exist.

      It has been calculated by Roger Penrose that the odds of the initial conditions for the big bang to produce the universe that we see to be a number so big, that we could put a zero on every particle in the universe, and even that would not be enough to use every zero. What are the odds that God created the universe? Odds are no such thing. Who of you would gamble your life on one coin flip?

      Is there evidence that the Bible is the truth? Yes. Did you know that the creation accounts listed in the book of Genesis are not only all correct, but are also in the correct chronological order? That the Bible doesn’t say the Earth was formed in six 24-hour days but rather six long but finite periods of time? That the Bible makes 10 times more creation claims than all major “holy” books combined with no contradictions, while these other books have errors in them? The Bible stood alone by concurring with the big bang saying, “In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth” (Genesis 1:1); and says our universe is expanding, thousands of years before scientists discovered these things. Watch a potential life-changing video on the website listed below with Astronomer(PhD) Hugh Ross explaining all these facts based on published scientific data. He has authored many books, backed even by atheist scientists.

      Jesus came to pay a debt that we could not; to be our legal justifier to reconcile us back to a Holy God; only if we are willing to receive Him: “For the wages of sin is death…” (Romans 6:23).

      God so loved the world that He gave us His only begotten son, so that whoever believes in Him, through faith, shall not perish, but have everlasting life. Jesus says if we wish to enter into life to keep the commands! The two greatest commands are to love God with all your heart, soul, strength, and mind; and your neighbor as yourself. All the law hang on these commands. We must be born of and lead by the Holy Spirit, to be called children of God, to inherit the kingdom. If we are willing to humble ourselves in prayer to Jesus, to confess and forsake our sins, He is willing to give the Holy Spirit to those who keep asking of Him; giving us a new heart, leading us into all truth!

      Jesus came to free us from the bondage of sin. The everlasting fire was prepared for the devil and his angels due to disobedience to God’s law. If we do the same, what makes us any different than the devil? Jesus says unless we repent, we shall perish. For sin is the transgression of the law. We must walk in the Spirit so we may not fulfill the lusts of the flesh, being hatred, fornication, drunkenness and the like. Whoever practices such things will not inherit the kingdom (Galatians 5:16-26). If we sin, we may come before Jesus to ask for forgiveness (1 John 2:1-2). Evil thoughts are not sins, but rather temptations. It is not until these thoughts conceive and give birth by our own desires that they become sin (James 1:12-15). When we sin, we become in the likeness of the devil’s image, for he who sins is of the devil (1 John 3:8); but if we obey Jesus, in the image of God. For without holiness, we shall not see the Lord (Hebrews 12:14).

      The oldest religion in the world is holiness through faith (James 1:27). What religion did Adam and Eve follow before the fall? Jesus, Who became the last Adam, what religion does He follow? Is He not holy? He never told us to follow the rituals and traditions of man but to take up our cross and follow Him (Luke 9:23). There are many false doctrines being taught leading people astray. This is why we need the Holy Spirit for discernment. Unlike religion, holiness cannot be created. It is given to us from above by the baptism of the Spirit. Jesus is more than a religion; He is about having a personal relationship with the Father. Start by reading the Gospel of Matthew, to hear the words of God, to know His character and commandments. Follow and obey Jesus, for He is the way, the truth, and the life!

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