The Knack Of Saying ‘NO’ 

Inability of the Horse to say NO cost its life during war –   Yoruba Proverb  

 I rate ‘NO’  as the most unique word in English language dictionary. Even though, it is just two letter, it seems like the most difficult word to spill out. To some its strikes like M.O.A.B (mother of all bombs)  and to others it’s the rod of rejection so it’s understandable why it’s antisocial in nature. I have observed that we tend to be more careful with the word as we evacuate childhood for adulthood. It’s one of those diseases that maturity has infected us with; we spend the rest of our lives wrestling. Amazingly, ‘NO’ is a complete sentence. It requires no explanation…NO is just NO! 

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Mortality and selfishness are inseparable. In fact, every human being is selfish even though we manifest in different level and shades. Daily, we are surrounded by families, friends, bosses, spouses and companions who constantly bombard us with plethora of demands yet  they all expect nothing but favourable response even when it’s draining, uncomfortable even impossible sometimes.
 
I perfectly understand that saying No to some ‘entrenched power blocks’ (parents, bosses etc.) can be practically inconceivable. Everybody has someone (people) he either love so much or fears too much to hurt or disappoint. However, it’s impossible to attain greatness without developing a spine and start saying ‘no’ even to these ‘strongholds’ or authority figure. You can’t please everyone and still breathe. 


This two-lettered word is potent enough to grate on weak nerves and amplify insecurities in both the listener and speaker like no other. Sometimes, ‘No’ must be said with aching heart and buckling knees. It’s often very uncomfortable . Sometimes, saying ‘NO’  makes you feel miserable but say it anyway. 
Successful people are goal oriented folks with clear standard, core values and goals. They see anything outside the scope of their goals and vision as distraction. So, it’s always easier for them to develop balls to yell ‘Hell NO!’  Minding less about whose ox is gored. 
In my opinion, the greatest sin a man can commit against his soul is…Doing what his mind doesn’t agree with (saying ‘yes’ to what you soul is saying ‘No’ to). Saying ‘NO’ is sweatier when you are caged in your own insecurities, fears and pride. Ernest Agyemang Yeboah puts it this way: it takes true courage and real humility to say NO or YES!  

Your conscience is the tool by which God speaks to you, bowing to pressure and doing what is against your conscience and values makes you a huge liability both to yourself and generation. Little minds are men without solid convictions, Heroes are folks who are loyal to their inner most treasure. 

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You don’t need anybody’s approval to be yourself and do the right thing. You don’t need cheerleaders in your life. The only people who are permitted in your life are folks who respect your conviction. Secured folks who do not interpret your ‘NO’ for rejection? Real friends understand that ‘No’ is as important as ‘Yes’. 
Ephesians 6:6 KJV

Not with eye service, as men pleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;


New International Version (Gal 1:10)

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
 
 Finally, constantly choose to be honourable by sticking to your values and conviction.  Good deeds performs against your inner voice is not recorded in heaven’s account. Decide to say ‘NO’ even when you feel awkward, insist to follow your heart even when you feel ridiculous. Stay on the right path even when it means staying alone. 
Remember, saying ‘No’ without guilt when necessary may cost you some good opportunities, it may even make you lose your good friends, however, saying no  will usher you into greatness and makes you to be someone’s opportunity and it will help you receive the best of friends. 

Just do it! 

Olatunji Rockdweller. 
 

16 thoughts on “The Knack Of Saying ‘NO’ ”

  1. Another amazing write-up sir. Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo once said “delayed gratification is a sign of maturity”. Now this is on the aspect of morality.
    Generally, “no” is based on individualism and not being individualistic as the latter can be selfish or egocentric. It needs no explanation like you said even though it explains itself that’s if the other party thinks. When you say no, you’ve already defined yourself, your choices, how you want to be addressed and seen. It’s very loud. It can also be very hard and painful to stick to especially in our world now. This is where the Holy Spirit comes in. He’s our friend, comforter and guide 24/7. He’s the one that prompts it and we say it. This is where our true faith is tested(in saying no), If we’re going to ignore that quiet, still voice or we’re going to stick to it. I’ve been there and I know what I’ve lost as a result. It can pain ehn but our comforter is always there.
    I thank God that Jesus didn’t say no. He said Yes!, and we said Yes! And we’re to go all over the world making sure that people say yes. That’s the only time no one should think of saying no,lol.
    Sir, you always have a way of making me think deep and challenging me. Short but deep. Thanks and God bless you.

  2. Sometimes no is a word you just need in your arsenal, a not far off company you should throw at people without feeling bad and they not throwing tantrums like a spoilt child. Good write up once again, I am never disappointed.

  3. Little minds are men without solid convictions.
    This got to me, and as usually something to sleep on, God bless you Sir.

  4. This piece was ordained by God for it to be written by you for me…..as usual, I feel blessed and yeah”No is really M.O.B…lolzzzz…..God bless you Rockefeller…luv yaaaa!!!!

  5. Wordsmith nice one just make sure that when you saying yes to everyone, you are not saying no to yourself. So NO I will not continue writing, I cannot come and die, I need to rest.

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The Knack Of Saying ‘NO’ 

Inability of the Horse to say NO cost its life during war –   Yoruba Proverb  

 I rate ‘NO’  as the most unique word in English language dictionary. Even though, it is just two letter, it seems like the most difficult word to spill out. To some its strikes like M.O.A.B (mother of all bombs)  and to others it’s the rod of rejection so it’s understandable why it’s antisocial in nature. I have observed that we tend to be more careful with the word as we evacuate childhood for adulthood. It’s one of those diseases that maturity has infected us with; we spend the rest of our lives wrestling. Amazingly, ‘NO’ is a complete sentence. It requires no explanation…NO is just NO! 

Photo credit :mariaelanocaption

Mortality and selfishness are inseparable. In fact, every human being is selfish even though we manifest in different level and shades. Daily, we are surrounded by families, friends, bosses, spouses and companions who constantly bombard us with plethora of demands yet  they all expect nothing but favourable response even when it’s draining, uncomfortable even impossible sometimes.
 
I perfectly understand that saying No to some ‘entrenched power blocks’ (parents, bosses etc.) can be practically inconceivable. Everybody has someone (people) he either love so much or fears too much to hurt or disappoint. However, it’s impossible to attain greatness without developing a spine and start saying ‘no’ even to these ‘strongholds’ or authority figure. You can’t please everyone and still breathe. 


This two-lettered word is potent enough to grate on weak nerves and amplify insecurities in both the listener and speaker like no other. Sometimes, ‘No’ must be said with aching heart and buckling knees. It’s often very uncomfortable . Sometimes, saying ‘NO’  makes you feel miserable but say it anyway. 
Successful people are goal oriented folks with clear standard, core values and goals. They see anything outside the scope of their goals and vision as distraction. So, it’s always easier for them to develop balls to yell ‘Hell NO!’  Minding less about whose ox is gored. 
In my opinion, the greatest sin a man can commit against his soul is…Doing what his mind doesn’t agree with (saying ‘yes’ to what you soul is saying ‘No’ to). Saying ‘NO’ is sweatier when you are caged in your own insecurities, fears and pride. Ernest Agyemang Yeboah puts it this way: it takes true courage and real humility to say NO or YES!  

Your conscience is the tool by which God speaks to you, bowing to pressure and doing what is against your conscience and values makes you a huge liability both to yourself and generation. Little minds are men without solid convictions, Heroes are folks who are loyal to their inner most treasure. 

Photo credit :vinodiniyiier
You don’t need anybody’s approval to be yourself and do the right thing. You don’t need cheerleaders in your life. The only people who are permitted in your life are folks who respect your conviction. Secured folks who do not interpret your ‘NO’ for rejection? Real friends understand that ‘No’ is as important as ‘Yes’. 
Ephesians 6:6 KJV

Not with eye service, as men pleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;


New International Version (Gal 1:10)

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
 
 Finally, constantly choose to be honourable by sticking to your values and conviction.  Good deeds performs against your inner voice is not recorded in heaven’s account. Decide to say ‘NO’ even when you feel awkward, insist to follow your heart even when you feel ridiculous. Stay on the right path even when it means staying alone. 
Remember, saying ‘No’ without guilt when necessary may cost you some good opportunities, it may even make you lose your good friends, however, saying no  will usher you into greatness and makes you to be someone’s opportunity and it will help you receive the best of friends. 

Just do it! 

Olatunji Rockdweller. 
 

16 thoughts on “The Knack Of Saying ‘NO’ ”

  1. Another amazing write-up sir. Pastor Matthew Ashimolowo once said “delayed gratification is a sign of maturity”. Now this is on the aspect of morality.
    Generally, “no” is based on individualism and not being individualistic as the latter can be selfish or egocentric. It needs no explanation like you said even though it explains itself that’s if the other party thinks. When you say no, you’ve already defined yourself, your choices, how you want to be addressed and seen. It’s very loud. It can also be very hard and painful to stick to especially in our world now. This is where the Holy Spirit comes in. He’s our friend, comforter and guide 24/7. He’s the one that prompts it and we say it. This is where our true faith is tested(in saying no), If we’re going to ignore that quiet, still voice or we’re going to stick to it. I’ve been there and I know what I’ve lost as a result. It can pain ehn but our comforter is always there.
    I thank God that Jesus didn’t say no. He said Yes!, and we said Yes! And we’re to go all over the world making sure that people say yes. That’s the only time no one should think of saying no,lol.
    Sir, you always have a way of making me think deep and challenging me. Short but deep. Thanks and God bless you.

  2. Sometimes no is a word you just need in your arsenal, a not far off company you should throw at people without feeling bad and they not throwing tantrums like a spoilt child. Good write up once again, I am never disappointed.

  3. Little minds are men without solid convictions.
    This got to me, and as usually something to sleep on, God bless you Sir.

  4. This piece was ordained by God for it to be written by you for me…..as usual, I feel blessed and yeah”No is really M.O.B…lolzzzz…..God bless you Rockefeller…luv yaaaa!!!!

  5. Wordsmith nice one just make sure that when you saying yes to everyone, you are not saying no to yourself. So NO I will not continue writing, I cannot come and die, I need to rest.

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